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Introduction to the Play Big Queen Podcast...
Welcome to the Play Big Queen podcast.
This is for the woman ready to lead with power, move with confidence, and own your Play Big self.
For my newly minted or late blooming, neurospicy visionary babes who are waking up to your power and unmasking your brilliance.
For the sovereign leader building success on your own terms.
I am your host, Kate Bailey.
I am the Play Big Queen.
My name is my title and a command for all women, Play Big Queen.
I invite you to claim this title for yourself and coronate your Play Big Self too, so it can serve you.
This is a space for bold embodiment, radical reclamation, unapologetic leadership, and a business that works with your wiring, not against it.
Your voice is meant to be bold and heard and your brilliance is here to be claimed.
You are already powerful.
I am in service of everyone fucking tired of the people pleasing grind.
We go deep, we get real, and we play big.
It's a new era for women on the Play Big path.
Long may we reign.
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You ever put your whole heart into something and watch it not take off the way you imagined?
That is where I am at right now.
I launched Walk and Tawk Wednesdays, a $33 a month space for women who want to walk, breathe, talk, and connect. A space for women who are tired of doing life alone, a weekly ritual to move energy, not just your body.
And as of right now, I have exactly one sign up.
Just one, since after opening my doors last week.
And you know what's interesting?
More people told me they were signing up and then they didn't.
And I am a big fan of pre-celebrating and energetic commitments.
And so I celebrated those people coming in already, which is great.
I love that I get to experience celebration.
No matter which way something goes, because it's never in vain and I eventually always get what my heart desires.
And those people still might come in, right?
We never know why people move faster or slower.
And in my world, you truly get to honor your own timing and not make it wrong in any way.
And you know, I could refund that one person their money right now.
Even though I don't do refunds, if my launch is not fully launching after the first week and there are some signs or data that shows that it's slower than it needs to be in order for it to be quote unquote worth it, I could say that this isn't working.
I could look at the numbers and look at the engagement and look at the early ad performances and decide that this offer doesn't work.
And a good business person who's great at and practiced at refinement might do that.
They'd look at the data and say, this idea was tested, it didn't perform, we're gonna stop dumping money into it.
And then there are people like me.
ADHD women who just have to get what they want.
Women with passion and heart who just keep believing long after it even makes sense to believe in it.
I am a woman who left the traditional working world to build something on my own terms and build something on my own timeline, which looks very different than any kind of traditional timeline, A traditional marketing timeline where you launch for 30 days if your audience is warm, 90 days if your audience is cold, where you analyze in the first week if it's really performing the way you want to see it perform.
I really got to build my business in a way where I get to honor my own neurodivergent timing. And sometimes I am lightning fast and sometimes I don't have capacity and sometimes I am a late bloomer. But I became my own boss and left the traditional world to create more of what I want to see in the world.
So I can live in my purpose, so you can live in your purpose, so we can build businesses that aren't just about profit, but also about meaning.
And yes, profit and purpose can absolutely exist in the same space. They should, they should exist in the same businesses.
But sometimes the timeline between the two takes a little bit longer to line up than you would traditionally expect when you are not willing to profit at any cost and not willing to put profit over people.
Sometimes a new offer or a new CEO vision, that next evolution of your company or who you are, what your company stands for, how you want to serve, it just takes time.
A vision has to be built brick by brick in reality.
And that's where we lose a lot of people in the entrepreneurial journey because when the rubber meets the road and they start laying brick, it becomes too much.
It becomes discouraging for people who aren't seeing it take shape fast enough.
And especially if you're ADHD, It can be challenging if you have impulsive tendencies to slow down and really take a moment to think about what you want instead of letting your vision and your decisions being controlled by external factors like data or naysayers or anything like that,
But the reality is that in the beginning of a vision or a new offer or a new idea, not everybody is going to be on board with the CEO's vision right away, right?
Whether you're chief executive officer or chief energetic officer, you know that not everyone understands the vision at first. That's why you're in leadership. That's why you go first.
That's part of the job of being a visionary, being a visionary isn't some like floaty dreamer type of term.
It requires courage and stamina and staying power and nervous system and emotional regulation, To hold the belief long enough for others to catch up, to communicate the vision again and again in a way that helps people feel it, takes a special kind of visionary brilliance. And as an AuD HD woman, that's one of my growing edges.
I know how to create things that feel magnetic, but sometimes I don't show up the way a neurotypical marketing world would expect me to show up. I don't always perform motivation.
I don't post the way they say, you're supposed to.
And I'm not going to fake hype.
When I post something on social media and I say, I'm really excited or eek, I'm super excited.
Like I've really tapped into that emotion and that's how I genuinely feel. I'm not just posting the celebration posts to celebrate because it gets people excited.
I'm posting it because I have embodied that feeling before I posted.
And that's where I'm at, that point in my launching journey.
I could pre-plan stuff.
Celebration and high emotions are always gonna sell, but that's just not how I do embodied business.
And this Walk and Tawk community, it's real.
It is so needed right now.
Walk and Tawk Wednesdays solves a problem that so many women quietly live with.
Isolation, burnout, overthinking, the exhaustion of doing everything for everyone.
Women who long for community but feel too depleted to find it.
Women who have outgrown old circles and crave spaces that actually feel safe, genuine, inclusive and slower.
So yes, is isolation painful? Absolutely. And is it scary to take the next step toward connection? To actually show up and talk and be seen again, especially after being burned in community before? Also yes. Sometimes it's even painful just to hope again, to hope for real, deeper, more evolved connection that meets you on your level, to risk wanting or desiring something that could disappoint you, or worse, to find something so beautiful and supportive, so much so, that you suddenly have something real to lose. That's all real. That's all part of pain point marketing that no one talks about, not just the pain itself, but all the tenderness that's underneath it. And sure, pain points do move people to buy. Pain point marketing is what gets so much profit and gets the early adopters and the women who are like, okay, enough, I finally had enough, uncle, I'm ready now. I have some pain point marketing already, but I don't go hard on it. That's not in my values.
I want just enough, to wake women up who are primed for waking because I don't want to crack someone off from their autonomy or manipulate anyone into joining. want women in my world, my community, our world, I want women to keep their agency. And to be honest, so many women are not used to that because of patriarchal conditioning. They would much rather me dominate them into a sale, right?
It's a weird kink that a lot of women have. It's like when someone is finally treating you right or a coach is treating you right or a partner is treating you right and you haven't been treated right. It feels weird. You feel like you can't trust it. It feels good but it doesn't feel exciting enough for your dopamine brain to want to go in on it. Right. And listen I grew up around manipulation. I grew up around marketing and sales and business and being able to sell anything to anyone. I can do that, but I won't because I approach business with my purpose, with my intention. And I truly intend and want you to take time to think about whether this space is really right for you. And also I am building this space for me.
because I've been isolated with going back to college and sitting in front of a computer all day. I've been out of my element for a few years now in my new little desert town where my husband is fabulously developing his career, where I still get to do all of my coaching online. But it's like I went from being in COVID in Florida
to being in like an isolated type of situation in a desert town where I do get to connect with these amazing women in community at these women's empowerment events and to see everything that's going on in this town. But I'm still new. Even after three years, I'm still the New Yorker that talks and moves differently through the world. And I don't know, it might be because of my neurodivergence, but it's really interesting.
Some people tell me that I don't have an accent, but when I get really excited and I start talking with people and we start riffing, or ⁓ if I have had a little bit to drink, it comes right out, right? Then I'm talking, especially if I'm around like another New Yorker, like my dialect just completely changes, right? So that's part of why I called Walk & Talk Wednesday's T-A-W-K and not T-A-L-K, because I want to be in that space in this community where
Yes, I can coach if you are looking for coaching, you can have consensual coaching or just like having people see you only without having to be coached. But I'm really building this because this is what the world needs more of. Spaces where we can let our guard down and be real and be who we are and still belong. And most of all, a space where
we can take all the stuff that we hold and carry as women and instead of trauma dumping, have this intentional kind of connection and community that we know as women with brilliant minds and women who are brilliant communicators that we can experience, right? We can experience a higher level, a deeper level, however you want to frame it, of connection and community that sometimes we just don't get.
in our families, in our communities. mean, as much as we love our families, our communities, all the spaces that we go to, if you've ever thought on a daily basis or even once a week, I just wish that I could have like a real conversation or a deeper conversation, or maybe you're developing an awareness where you watch words come out of your mouth and the responses that come out of your mouth and you're like, I'm actually bullshitting a lot of the time. People ask me,
me how I am. I say I'm fine. I'm not actually fine. You find yourself getting into these people pleasing roles and these dialects that don't actually sound like you anymore. And you know that you have the capacity and the communication abilities or even just the ability to be present with other people. And
You have those skills and can do those things at a level that just other people on the day to day aren't meeting you in. That's a big part of the reason why I'm creating this community for us so we can get real support with people who give us the absolute gift of their presence instead of more numbness, more distraction, drama, trauma bonding, or bonding over addictive behaviors.
I remember there were so many times where I was like, my gosh, I'm going to meet up with a women's group and this is going to be great and we're going to connect and have fun. And the entire meetup was like structured around drinking. I mean, there's nothing wrong if you drink, but it's like, we're just getting to know each other. Like I do not want the basis of our understanding of each other through the lens of substance. Right.
Listen, that's not including any medications that you might need to take for mental health issues or neurodivergence. That's not the same thing as like taking substances for recreation which again, there's nothing wrong with that either. There's nothing wrong with recreational drinking. But if the intention is community and connection and you're new to each other and you really want like a depth of sisterhood or community and support,
Trying to build it around a meetup where you just like pound beers or drink wine isn't gonna do it for you, sister. You know, like it just doesn't have the ability to be raw, real and deep when that's involved. And so if you've been craving community and you know that trying to do everything alone isn't working anymore and like trying to connect in these ways that no longer serve you,
isn't working anymore, then I know that I'm not only building this for myself or because this is what the world needs, I am building this for you. I am building this because it so honestly breaks my heart to think that you have to go through another season as a woman, as a mother, as a partner, as a professional, as a business owner, a leader or an entrepreneur that you have to do.
any and all that you do feeling alone or not seen or understood in any of it. And also I made this for the person who feels like stuck, like you feel like getting moving physically, mentally or energetically has been challenging. Maybe you're feeling frozen if you're gym membership.
has turned into a monthly donation at this point. If your nervous system feels like it is always in overdrive and you are craving structure that just feels real and soft and human, then Walk & Tawk Wednesdays is that reset. You know, there are patterns that emerge when I am working with neurodivergent women who are either working towards achieving their goals,
creating their version of success or they're working towards playing big. A lot of the time, the pattern is they wrestle with so much on their own to start. And while they're wrestling with all this stuff, they're really burdened by like kind of being in this dark space where they shame and judge themselves for whatever they can find.
It might be shaming themselves for not going to the gym, not doing the thing that they know that they need to go and do that is healthy for them. They shame themselves for not being great at self-care tasks or for not doing everything that they see and know that they have to do and get done, but just can't bring themselves to do it. Then inevitably in this pattern, what happens is we take a moment at some point in their journey where we...
just take like literally one minute to stop shaming yourself. And we take a moment to make yourself and your process right, to trust it, to trust how you operate. Every action, everything you did, there is nothing wrong with anything you did or who you are. And you get to show up exactly as you are today with no shame, no pressure.
to do the things that you haven't been doing that you know you need to do. And that one act of putting down the shame anvil that most neurodivergent women carry around is enough to make them light up enough to not only be inspired to show up.
but to take off on a whole new beautiful course in your life and you really start getting some momentum. You start building positive experiences that add up to real growth that you can actually see. And you stop ruminating on all the negative things that in your mind keep you stuck. At Walk & Tawk Wednesdays, we get to break the spell, release the pressure valve. We can walk, talk, breathe and connect online together.
once a week. There is no pressure. There's no perfection. Just presence. Just being with each other. You get to come as you are with your camera on or your camera off. It's up to you. And you know what? Maybe even that is not something that you're ready for. Maybe it's not everyone's thing. This offer, right? And that's okay. But for the woman who this is for, this will meet you exactly where you are.
and take you so much higher because this is here for and built for you. What I know after years in business is that every offer has its own soul, its own spirit, its own flow, its own rhythm. Some offers explode overnight. Others unfold slowly, kind of like a flower opening one petal at a time.
Things I have shared that have gone viral with millions of views start off slow and then explode and others trickle and then rush. I used to make it mean something about me. Like I would go on my little emotional roller coaster like, I'm not good at business or my marketing wasn't right. I can't believe like after all these years, they still don't understand it. Or maybe I'm just not cut out for this. You know, I do the whole shame spiral too. I'm human. But like now I know better when something
grow slowly, that doesn't mean that it's failing. Sometimes it means that it is deepening, it is rooting, it might grow differently, just like all flowers and all fruits grow differently in different seasons, but in the beginning, it's anchoring itself so it can sustain. That's what I am doing here. I am anchoring into this. I am choosing to stay in this offer.
I am choosing to stay with what I love. I'm choosing to believe in the women who will walk into this community at exactly the right time. I'm choosing to keep showing up because I know what it feels like to be alone. And I know what happens when women stop pretending that we are okay and get real and start connecting again. It's fucking magical. And it's so rich with expansion.
and health and wellness. So yeah, I could totally refund the money for my one person who bought my walk and talk ticket. Like it's really not about the money. It's a low ticket offer. It's $33. In fact, it's actually easier to sell high ticket than it is to sell low ticket. So if it were just about the money, I could stop now.
It's not easier for everybody to sell high ticket than low ticket. Let me just say that. It depends on the person. But for me, the easiest thing for me to sell are high ticket group things. But that's not what I want. And that's not what I think we need right now. And I could stop, but I won't. Because this is so much bigger than launching my Walk and Tawk Wednesday offer. This is what is needed right now, even if...
everyone is not ready to slow down and give themselves what they need. This is still a movement, the movement in the making. Walk and Tawk Wednesdays is a weekly ritual that will grow. One Wednesday, one woman, one conversation at a time. If at any point in this podcast your attention drifted, come back to me now. Listen in. I want to directly invite you.
Yes, you. Even if you think I don't really want you there, even if you don't give a fuck what I think, I am telling you, I know you are listening because I see the numbers on the back end of my podcast. I know you are listening and I want you with us in community. If you feel even a twinge that this is what you need and it would be right for you. If you have been craving connection that is real,
connection that is not performative, connection that is not draining, just honest connection, please come join us. It's $33 a month, replays are included. We start each week with taking a deep breath and logging on, and we end each week with a sense of peace, inspiration, and connectedness. You can join at the link in the show notes, or if you have...
challenges navigating where stuff is like I do sometimes on the internet, just send me a DM or send me an email and be like, Kate, I want to join Walk and Tawk Wednesdays, but I can't find the fucking link. I'll send you the link. I am all for doing anything that makes this more accessible to you. Because right now, the world, your world doesn't need to be more complicated or have more distractions or more noise. It needs women who remember how to connect.
with themselves, with each other, and with what actually matters.
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Outro 1
That's it for today, Queen.
Take what lit you up, leave what didn't.
You know what serves.
If you want to stay in this Play Big Queen orbit, get the rituals, resources, and real talk that fuels your Play Big self, go to xxxkatebailey.com, scroll to the bottom, and join this community.
This is where bold women gather. Neurodivergent visionaries, disability warriors, sacred disruptors.
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Leave comments, give me all the stars, share it.
That's how we create change that ripples, and how this podcast gets out to more people who need it.
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that feels right for you.
Or tag me on socials and tell me a moment that truly served you from this episode.
Until next time, remember to honor your own timing, value your own unique way.
And most of all, when you come face to face with your boldest desires, trust your brilliance and Play Big Queen.
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Outro 2
Hey, queen, are you still here?
Good.
That means you're not just curious.
You are being called and want more.
I am here for the ones who want more than party trick mindset hacks.
The ones who need nervous system rooted, neurodiverse affirming space held by someone who is trauma trained, so they can rise on their terms.
My work is designed to center folks navigating ADHD, autism, disability, trauma, or mental health challenges and their brilliance all at once.
You do not need to be someone who identifies as neurodivergent or someone who has a disability to benefit from this work.
If you're feeling called, you belong here.
I believe in and support queer and trans rights, Black Lives Matter, sex worker rights, Palestinian, Ukrainian, and global self-liberation, religious autonomy, and dismantling abusive systems.
If that's too much for you, then babe, this isn't your podcast and you know where the unfollow is.
But if that lights a fire within you and you are inspired to learn more, then my Play Big Queen, you are home.
You can also head over to xxxkatebailey.com/about to learn more about me, my company,
qualifications, methodology, values, worldviews, philosophies, and my mission.
My mission is to activate 10,000 women with invisible disabilities to lead, create, speak up, and claim the spaces that they were told to shrink inside.
Because their leadership, your leadership, will change the world.
If you know that's you, declare it.
Put your energetic line in the sand and tell me.
Email me at [email protected] and tell me why this work is so important for you and we can explore opportunities to work together and make your Play Big dreams a reality.
