Transcript Episode 31
Play Big Queen Podcast Episode 31
Welcome. You are listening to the Play Big Queen podcast. This is for you if you are a woman who is an entrepreneur, business owner, professional, leader, or someone who is deeply committed to personal growth, self-improvement, transformation, and living authentically. This is especially for you if you have an invisible disability, whether you are diagnosed,
undiagnosed, self-diagnosed, or late diagnosed, and you are working on reclaiming your neurodivergent identity, rebuilding confidence, learning what works for your unique brilliance while breaking free from small, people-pleasing conditioning. If you are a visionary change maker interested in advancing your leadership and creating success on your terms, and you want to leave a legacy, if you are navigating disability or neurodiversity as an individual or as an ally, and you are looking for a support
supportive and inclusive environment to thrive, then this is for you. I am your hostess, Kate Bailey. I am the Play Big Queen. My name is my title and a command for all women. Play Big Queen. I invite you to claim this title for yourself and coronate your Play Big self too, if it serves you. I am a business and embodiment mentor working with women who are ready to rise the fuck up and be your bold, beautiful
sexy-ass self, start and grow your big bold vision and claim that you too get to have your boldest desires. I am the creatrix of Kate Bailey LLC, which provides coaching services, educational courses, products and experiences that promote success in neurodiversity advocacy, women's empowerment, embodiment, entrepreneurship and business to serve women on their transformational journey.
To learn more about my company offerings and to get on my email list, go to xxxkatebailey.com. If you would like to learn more about my work, my personal values, my mission and my community, make sure you catch the last five minutes of this episode to go deeper and learn so much more. On this podcast, sometimes we will have guests, sometimes I'll do solo episodes, but every single time you listen, you will expand. So get ready.
It's a new era for women on the PlayBig path. Long may we reign.
Welcome back to another week of the Play Big Queen podcast.
You know, sometimes the world feels like it’s on fire. Right now, it actually is.
The escalation in Gaza, the rise of fascism, authoritarian power growing in plain sight… it’s heavy, it’s loud, and it’s real.
If you’re neurodivergent or living with a disability, these waves of crisis affect you differently.
Our nervous systems already work so much harder in a world that is not designed for us. We don’t get to pretend we’re unaffected.
The tension and noise swell and build and crash over us, even before the news arrives.
Right now, as I record this, the world is dangerously unstable.
It is August 10, 2025, and the Israeli regime is escalating military operations that are fueling this genocide in Gaza. At the time of this recording, Israeli forces conducted an airstrike that targeted a journalists’ tent located outside of al‑Shifa Hospital in Gaza City.
The strike killed five Al Jazeera staff members: correspondents were Anas al‑Sharif and Mohammed Qreiqeh, along with camera operators Ibrahim Zaher, Mohammed Noufal, and Moamen Aliwa wiping out Al Jazeera's reporting team in Gaza City. There is now an e mergency discourse about press freedom in war zones.
Now I’m not here to give you the news. But we’re not here to bypass the reality of what is going on in the world, while I record this podcast episode, when this is what is happening in the world. And even though I am in school right now, and I study digital audiences, my degree that I am working towards is in journalism.
Journalists are supposed to be considered protected civilians under the Geneva Conventions. Israel intentionally targeting them doesn’t just qualify as a war crime. Since this killing is part of a systemic attack on civilians, it should rise to the level or label of being called a legal Crime Against Humanity according to international law. And it seems like the law defending humanity is no where to be found now.
Tense talks happened in Ukraine with President Zelenskyy having to shoot down DT’s absurd hints to give up territory. And while suggesting Ukraine gives up territory, this dictator of so-called democracy is doing his best to militarize Washington D.C. and in the process overtly demonstrating that the further abuse of military power against US citizens is inevitable.
Over the past few weeks, humanitarian boats like the Freedom Flotilla, carrying activists including Greta Thunberg, have tried to bring vital aid into Gaza, only to be blocked, boarded, or turned back by Israel. These efforts highlight the desperate need for humanitarian access amid a sealed-off and extremely violent environment.
As of August 2025, over 61,000 Palestinians have been killed in Gaza since Israel’s military campaign began in October 2023.
An estimated 17,000 of these victims are children, including 214 newborns, highlighting the devastating impact on Gaza’s youngest generation.
This staggering loss of life is compounded by the Nakba of 1948, during which an estimated 750,000 Palestinians were displaced and many killed. In comparison, the Holocaust claimed the lives of approximately 6 million Jews.
The current situation in Gaza, with its scale of destruction and loss of life, is a stark reminder of the horrors of genocide and the urgent need for international intervention to prevent further atrocities.
We must honor the staggering numbers on both sides, remembering that while the Holocaust claimed the lives of six million Jews, the shadow of that event continues today in the form of the relentless violence Palestinians face.
Some radicalized Zionist ideologies, born from the irreparable scars of the Holocaust, believe that all people besides Palestinians deserve humanity and freedom. And now extreme Zionist ideologies deny Palestinian civilians, children and families the very humanity and freedom that Jewish families fought so hard to secure.
I want to be crystal clear that I have a zero tolerance policy for antisemitism.
I stand with Jewish people and Jewish Americans with their humanity in tact, and humanitarians from Israel who know the difference between Israel the state of power and brutal force, and Israel the people that the state manipulates controls or hurts.
Along with people in power, Jewish people with their beautiful culture, love, and humanity in their hearts hold so much power to end the genocide and create connection and healing where there once was division and pain. So do Americans who do not tolerate supporting Israel in genocidal acts.
What is happening now is worse than Nazi Germany in some ways, not in numbers, but in the sense that back then many people could claim they did not know or could not see the full picture.
Our worlds were much smaller and less connected.
Today we watch these horrors unfold live on social media and television. The imbalance of power is inescapably clear. The distraction and denial around us only reveal how much more work we must do and how much more power we must claim if we are ever going to stop the genocide being thrown in our faces.
These moments remind us that the crises we face are no longer distant in a globalized world.
They are alive and shaping the conditions under which we live, work, and resist.
With all this hardship going on, the easiest thing would be to distract, go numb, shut down, or go quiet. It would be easier to think this is not the time to build a business, focus on confidence, or use your voice.
For those of us whose brains and bodies don’t fit the usual mold, the energy required and demands on our capacity are so much greater.
The barriers are often unseen but very real.
But now, it matters more than ever that you do not shut down.
This is exactly the time to get the courage to build your business, grow your health, wealth, and community.
In fact, it is vital that you do, because when power is held by fewer people, when systems remove rights and choice, silence your voice and dissent, and profit from oppression, this is not business as usual.
This is business as resistance.
Especially for those of us who society wants to keep quiet, our work is a clear refusal to stay silent.
The obstacles we face are real.
Women-led businesses face fewer chances, more scrutiny, and constant questioning of our credibility.
Add being neurodivergent, disabled, chronically ill, being non white or 2SLGBTQIA+ and it can feel like running a race with weights around your neck while the finish line keeps moving.
And still, we build.
We create.
We claim space that was never freely given.
I’m going to take a turn into the more personal and casual right now, but it’s still relevant.
I’ll be honest.
I don’t know everything about astrology or the stars, but I have felt the energy of this recent Lionsgate portal.
It has pushed moved me to clear out what no longer serves me in my business, to get clear on what feels good to deliver, what needs to be accessible, and what could be more juicy and meaningful for me, my audience, and community.
My website, despite some setbacks, is finally moving forward and I have been fueled by a deep “fuck you” to everything that is happening in the world.
I overhauled my entire offer suite.
Everything I do and how I serve is now visible in my offers section at www.xxxkatebailey.com under the Work With Kate section.
I am still getting all of the programs and things online and I honor my own timing which is fast in some ways and slower in others…
and it’s probably going to take me another half a year or so while I navigate an academic system not designed for me, with my current client load, and podcast production but this is really big for me.
This is more than website creation milestones and more than just updates; it feels like total alignment and resistance.
On top of that, I’m starting to redesign the intro and outro of this podcast.
I’m thinking about new music choices because I’m feeling a different vibe lately.
I want this space to reflect where I am now and invite you to grow and evolve alongside me.
If you want to know more about me, my company, my qualifications, methodology, values, worldviews, philosophies, and mission, you can now find all of that on the new “About” page at www.xxxkatebailey.com/about.
Instead of trying to fit it all at the end of podcast episode explainers, I want you to have a place you can visit it whenever you want the full story and keep this space more for the embodiment of the Play Big Queen.
But back to your business as resistance and why your voice matters…. and it matters so much.
Your voice matters.
Your clarity in this moment matters.
Your confidence matters.
Especially when the systems around you were built to convince you otherwise.
Every day that you say fuck perfectionism and people pleasing and you show up, you help dismantle the idea that only certain people get to lead, shape culture, and create change.
I’m not saying that it won’t be hard to show up, but babe, you can do hard things.
I’m also not saying ignore the pain around us and just work on your business or personal growth.
I’m saying let the state of the world, let this moment refine you, remind you of your why, and clarify your reason for doing this work until that reason is bright enough to blaze your trail and guide you through anything.
While some build systems that control and exclude, we build systems that liberate and include.
We are in care, community, creativity, and real experience.
That’s not just business.
This is survival and daring to choose to thrive beyond it in the face of impending unrelenting patriarchal control.
More than resistance, showing up for your confidence, your bold voice, and your business… that is revolution.
So again, this isn’t business as usual.
It’s business as resistance.
Take that as your mantra when you feel yourself shrinking from building what you want to build, being who you are meant to be, and doing what you are here to do.
If you are neurodivergent, disabled, or both, your presence, your work, your leadership are already a challenge to the systems that want you to stay quiet.
Keep creating.
Keep speaking.
Keep building.
Your willingness to lead right now is exactly what this moment asks for.
And reminder: engaging in your business and building your voice is a powerful form of resistance, but it’s not the only way to show up.
We still need to call for change in all the places that matter.
We still need to protest, organize, speak out, and do the hard work of making change on every level.
Playing your part in those movements and holding space for collective action is vital.
Building your business is one piece of a larger puzzle, and both are needed right now.
I want to invite you to share in the comments (either on Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to the Play Big Queen podcast) your thoughts on the following question:
In a world that feels overwhelming and uncertain, how do you keep showing up for your business and your voice?
What’s one small act of resistance you’re proud of right now?
I’d love to hear what keeps you moving forward, and when you put your thoughts in the comments, you just might inspire someone else to Play Big Queen.
Okay, that's it for this episode of the Play Big Queen podcast. Thank you so much for sharing your time with me. As always, eat the fruit, spit out the seeds, take what nourished you, keep what resonated for you, and leave the rest because ultimately, you know best.
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I want you to know that my door is always open and I will always make space for you to be heard and to honor your experience. The views expressed in this podcast are through the lens of my personal identity and my own lived experience. I am a European mix Mediterranean mutt who is an Italian Sicilian, cis heterosexual woman born in New York, experiencing the world in a white body as a multiply neurodivergent.
who lives in a neurodiverse and racially blended family. And like everyone else, my one single perspective comes with its own limitations. I have done personal and professional work around anti-racism, diversity, equity, equality, and inclusion. I am not a therapist or doctor, and any coaching or advice cannot take the place of professional medical, mental health, or healing help. However, that being said,
What happens in my work is often a very powerful additional supplemental or alternative way to heal around identity work, mindset and emotional wellness. Although I am not a licensed therapist, it is worth noting that in addition to being a mentor, I am trained and certified in emergency medicine and response. I have rendered care to over 20,000 patients in the course of my career. I have taught over 15,000 students, many of which had learning disabilities that were undiagnosed and came from diverse cultural backgrounds. I was also a private health college adjunct professor who was responsible for training medical professionals on how to respond to trauma and behavioral emergencies. If you approach me with any concern, you will be met with professionalism, compassion, understanding, support, and a readiness and a willingness to advocate for your needs. That being said, sometimes I just get it wrong.
I am a human being on my own growth journey after all. When I mess up, I'm always available for courageous and crucial conversation that makes way for growth and healing. Your experience and voice matters to me. I sincerely welcome any feedback you feel called to share. You can email your comments or concerns to info at playbigqueen.com knowing that I am open to having any and all crucial conversations needed. Okay.
Remember, you are brilliant. Celebrate yourself. Value your own unique way and honor your own timing. Because you can totally create a life and business that feels good and is successful on your terms. Remember to release expectations of what you think your Play Big process should look like and be willing to do the work that needs to be done to Play Big. But most of all, when you come face to face with your boldest desires, remember to trust yourself and play big queen
Hi, queen. I see you're in it for the long game. If you reach this part of the podcast episode, it means you're interested in learning more about my work, my values, my mission, and my community. So let's go deeper together. I am here to activate neurodivergent women to play bigger and to show you that you are so capable of doing big things and that if you value your own unique way and honor your own timing, you will learn to receive your boldest desires and so much more.
In my world, what makes you different is valued, celebrated, honored, and welcome. I welcome all who identify as female and non-binary folk in my Play Big Queens community. We believe in and support LGBTQIA plus 2S, Black Lives Matter, women's and pro-choice rights, and obviously intersectional identities, including disabilities, neurodivergence, and religious beliefs. Personally, I am pro sex worker rights, pro-Palestinian liberation, against Islamophobia, and against anti-Semitism, and I'm also against any cult-like religions that use beliefs as an excuse to indoctrinate people into abusive, autocratic systems. Like many neurodivergent people, we have big hearts and a strong sense of social justice around here. You are encouraged to stay and play in our Play Big Queen community if you share these values. For those who find the word queen does not resonate.
Perhaps because of imperial associations, the Play Big self archetype can take any form and the invitation and activation remains the same. To learn to embody your Play Big self, to operate from love instead of fear, to go on a Play Big journey in community because you know that no Play Big queen can truly Play Big alone.
To decide to cultivate the courage to use your voice, unmask, reclaim, embrace and embody your brilliance and create a life and business that works with the unique way that you work. Through this work, you will come to know the truth of your brilliance deeply. And as you come to know your authentic self, more and more will begin to open up for you. Knowing your unique brilliance will lead to great success and true belonging. In this world, we take the pressure off and learn to step off the traditional path so you can blaze your own trail. My mission is to get you motivated, inspired, and equipped to get into massive action and go on your very own Play Big journey. My mission is to empower at least 10,000 women to fully step into their Play Big self by offering healing, transformative, inclusive, and neurodiverse-affirming coaching and content.
Through innovative coaching programs, courses, and master classes, we provide the tools, support, sustainability, and community needed to help each woman embrace her unique path to confidence, success, and meaningful impact. If just 10,000 women with invisible disabilities and their allies were empowered with neurodiverse affirming and inclusive communication to express their unique brilliance, step into their authority and autonomy and lead,
the world would experience a profound shift towards inclusivity, innovation, and empathy. These women would break through societal limitations, modeling resilience, creativity, and strength of diversity. Their voices and perspectives, often shaped by unique experiences with challenges and perseverance, would redefine business leadership, inspire systemic change, and create spaces where diverse ways of thinking are not just accepted,
but celebrated. Industries and communities would become more accessible and inclusive with practices that honor varied ways of working, communicating, and achieving. This change would ripple into every area of life and society. Workplaces would become more adaptable, offering a culture of respect for individual strengths. Health care and education systems would improve.
improve centering accessibility and compassion in their approaches and policies would evolve to better support those with invisible challenges benefiting society as a whole. So many women with so much potential are shrinking in the face of their own brilliance, just sitting on the sidelines waiting for permission instead of getting in the game. The activation of the latent potential in these women, their empowerment, making them visible would inspire others, reduce stigma around invisible disabilities, and encourage everyone to lead authentically. Their successes will light the way for countless more women to rise, creating a culture of true diversity where every person feels valued, included, and emboldened to contribute their brilliance and lead with it. If you know you are ready for more clarity, confidence, and you want to embody your play big self and be supported around creating the big vision for your life and business, then send me an email at info at playbigqueen.com telling me why this work is so important for you and we can explore opportunities to work together and make your Play Big dreams a reality.
